letting it simmer...

i've been meaning to blog about this--it's another case of learning your lessons once it actually happens to you.

recently a dispute came up when some matters were brought to light from last summer. these persons were upset about some things that were said and attributed them to me and some other people. first, the subject in question was actually pretty petty--something that i had no idea would cause such a stir. personally, i think it's just making a mountain out of a mole hill. but for the sake of argument, i'm not debating whether or not i was right or wrong. i'll admit that i could have been more sensitive to the situation.

however, what bugs me about this is that it's been stewing over the last 6 months and suddenly it was brought to my attention. what these persons were mad about isn't even relevant to anything current! if they had let me know at the time when the incident(s) occurred, i could have stopped what i was doing that was irritating them. it could have been settled there and then. instead, they waited 'til now to let me know they were mad about something that i (and others) thought was a joke. what's more, i feel like these persons are attributing some of their own problems to this incident--in other words, making me responsible for what other people were doing.

anyway, i'll readily admit that i've done the exact same thing before--bring something up from the past and use it against someone. i really feel stupid now that i'm the one experiencing it. the point is, if the situation or matter has passed, just forget about it and move on. otherwise, it's just reopening a can of worms and it causes people to get mad / frustrated at each other. still, what should the 'buffer zone' be--the length of time where it's ok for people to bring up something that happened? a few days, one week, one month? i understand that in some cases, certain incidents just require people to calm down before it can be resolved. well, i would say no more than a month. or else, people are just being unreasonble and bringing up crap. what do you think?

anyhow, i guess it i'll just have to swallow my pride in this situation and forget about it. :P

and so i digress...